Life, Marriage, Spiritual Walk, Weddings

Two Years Later: Our Story

The night before my wedding, I was waiting for my sister/Maid of Honor, future SIL, and best friend/bridesmaid to get back from Target to take me to The Cheesecake Factory for my Bachelorette party. I wasn’t interested in doing anything elaborate, but they insisted on running out before we left. I had previously written my vows, but I felt like I needed to rework them before the next day, so I sat down with my computer and read through them. In the end, I told the story of how I had a crush on a certain young man for most of my life, and how I followed trusted God with every step along the way.

At 7 years old, I developed a crush on a boy at my church in Batavia, NY. His parent’s had been assigned as the pastors a few years previously, and though my first crush was not him, it quickly became him when I realized how cute he was. Who can remember why a crush is developed at a young age, but I can remember going to church and being excited to see him. During a musical when I was 8 or 9, my mother was the director, and had that young man and myself dance together during one of the songs: “Cast the nets, cast the nets, casts the nets in the seaaaaaaa.” (You may recognize that song if you did any children’s musicals at your church in the 90’s or early 00’s: I did Fish Tales 2 or 3 times at least.)

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Life, Marriage

I Fail at Birthdays

This past week was one of my favorite, low-key holidays: Valentines Day. Now, this wasn’t always on my list of favorites, especially thinking back to the single-girl days when I wouldn’t even get notes from admirers (let’s face it, I didn’t have any). But having spent the past 7 valentines days in a committed relationship, I love it. My husband knows the exact flowers I love, has some sort of chocolate-covered sweet delivered (which I promptly eat half of and wish I had saved some), and we usually plan some sort of meal/celebration around the holiday. He knows that displays of affection like that are part of my love language, and he does a great job at making me feel special.

Then February 15th hits, his birthday, and every year I feel like I fail at showing him the same love he’s shown me just the day before.

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Life, Marriage, Spiritual Walk

Praying Over My Marriage (Part 2)

Friend,

For the past 5 days, I have spent time in the evenings after my devotions praying for my marriage, as I referenced in Part 1 of this series. Now, I can’t say that every evening of prayer spoke specifically to me, but I did feel like God used the past few days to speak some truth into my marriage that I needed to hear.

There have been times in the past year that I have wondered to myself if I did the right thing. Now, those thoughts are HARD because when it truly comes down to it, I know my husband is the man God placed in my life for marriage (someday I’ll have to tell you our story–it’s good). There are times when our thought processes are ENTIRELY different from each other. The way we grew up is different, we have different love languages, we even have vastly different ideas on how many hours need to be spent at work.

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